We all have one, but few of us even know about it. It’s something at the core of who we are and influences how we relate to those of significance in our lives. It’s our love language – the displays by which we feel seen and validated. “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman identifies the actions and expressions that best feed our souls, and ultimately contributes to our happiness and well-being.
For some, words of affirmation is their love language – positive expressions of acknowledgement, encouragement, and praise. For others, it is quality time – the gift of sharing heartfelt conversations and togetherness that brings joy to their hearts. Additional expressions of love that feed the soul are receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of service.
In order to maintain a healthy and balanced emotional life, it is important we recognize our own love language, and give ourselves permission to express that need. It is also important that we discover and respond to the love language of those we are in relationship with, in order to develop and nurture strong and lasting bonds.
Using the word LOVE as an acrostic, consider how love is best expressed to you. Then ask the question of those who share life’s journey with you. Maybe “L” would be for loyalty and listening; “O” for openness and observation; “V” for vulnerability and validation; “E” for expressions of love and encouragement. Whatever your LOVE acrostic may be, share those needs with your significant other, your family, and friends. In turn, once their love languages are discovered, seek to express your love in ways that best speak to their hearts.
If love truly is the nucleus of our being, and the nourishment of our souls, then we must be diligent to pursue it and willing to express it.
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